The Presence-led Leader

I’ve changed.

I’m not the leader I once was.

In my 20’s I was focused on my PURPOSE. My goal was to discover why God had given me the gifts, skills, personality and opportunities I had been given. I wanted to ensure that I lived from a sense of calling, that I was clear about my assignment and that I was purpose-driven.

In my 30’s I began to focus on my PERFORMANCE. I wanted to be the very best leader I possibly could be and I wanted to be better than those around me. I became consumed with numbers and statistics. Those numbers and statistics informed by identity; how I felt about myself.

In my 40’s something shifted. I began to focus on PRESENCE. His presence. My primary goal became creating a way-of-life and leadership, as well as a church culture, where the pursuit of the presence of God became my ‘one thing’. I started to create healthy rhythms where I would arrange my life around practices and activities that fostered a deeper intimacy with God.

To be clear, I still have a definite sense of purpose and a God-given assignment. I still work hard and want to maximise the gifts and opportunities I have been given. But there has been a less-than-subtle change in how I try to live and lead.14500544_1122511167833743_7882339771515125108_o

PERFORMANCE-DRIVEN leadership has its benefits. It gets the job done. The organisation advances. It elevates the leader into the limelight. The leader gets the applause. It creates energy, momentum and movement.

But there’s a dark-side too.

When I was solely performance-driven I found my mood go up and down depending on the stats. I found my drive for excellence easily tipped over into perfectionism and I became easily irritated when my performance (or the performance of others) wasn’t faultless. I found that I would be drawn into comparison and competition with other leaders and other churches. I would get the job done, but my heart suffered.

Learning to live a PRESENCE-LED life has changed me. It’s changed how I lead. I’m learning to stay in my lane and love the assignment I’ve been given rather than comparing my calling to the guy who has greater influence than me. I’m learning to lead from a posture that is devoid of fear, panic and striving. I’m learning to be the non-anxious presence in the room. I’m learning to lead from sonship rather than slavery. I’m learning to live from a foundation of gratitude and thanksgiving, rather than complaint and grumbling.

If you’re looking to make a similar shift, can I suggest a few things that helped me:

1. Create life-giving rhythms

I came to the helpful realisation that ‘I become what I repeat’; that my heart would be shaped by my habits. And so I became very intentional about building devotional rhythms into my life that connected me to the loving presence of my heavenly Father. I appreciate that a daily quiet-time is not as ‘fashionable’ as it once was, especially for those who want to be more spontaneous, but I found that it was unlikely that I would just drift into living a presence-led life and that it would take the creation of intentional daily, weekly and monthly rhythms on my part. Prayer, silence, journaling, worship, meditating on Scripture started to take a prominent place in my new healthy habits.

2. Befriend silence

As a leader I use a lot of words. I write a lot of words. I speak a lot of words. I give the lead in team meetings. I speak to groups. I give talks on platforms. Even though I’m more of an introvert than an extrovert, I still talk a lot! I’ve learned that the more I am called upon to use words, the more stillness and silence I need. Some days it’s a struggle because my mind is prone to wander, but as part of my devotional rhythm I’ve learned to spend five-to-ten minutes in silence, taking a few deep breaths and allowing myself to become aware of the presence of God with me.

‘Right speech comes out of silence, and right silence comes out of speech.’ Dietrich Bonhoeffer

3. Choose thanksgiving

On this journey of change, one of my primary learnings has been the importance of living from a posture of gratitude. We ‘enter His gates with thanksgiving’. The access-point into the presence of God is thanksgiving. I’ve learned to be very intentional about starting my day listing the things I’m grateful for and acknowledging God’s goodness in my life. I know it’s a basic discipline, but it’s so easy to drift into a life of grumbling. I’ve found that speaking out words of thanksgiving disarms the Enemy (because he wants me to believe that my Father is stingy), it breaks discouragement and despair off my life (because I start to focus on the good things I have been given as a gift), and it prevents me falling into the comparison trap (because I find delight in the assignment I’ve been given, rather than comparing my assignment to the assignment someone else has been given). 

Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name. (Psalm 100)

If you’re learning to lead a presence-led life, I would love to hear from you! Let me know what has changed for you. I want to learn from you too…

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Pastor Duncan Clark

I love being married to Helen. I love being dad to Ben, Hannah, Daniel and Ruby. I love being the Senior Pastor of Coventry Elim Church (www.elim-coventry.org.uk) I love that I get to run, read, lead and loads of other great stuff!

9 thoughts on “The Presence-led Leader

  1. I love this, am thankful that you are my pastor. Your leadership and way with words are what made me make my home in Elim Coventry. Am seeking His presence and pursuing it earnestly. Bless you and family, we are blessed to be led by you.

  2. Great article. It’s vital to be intentional about being in His presence and being thankful! There’s enough goodness to go around!!!

  3. Hi Duncan, thank you for sharing this. I am an MIT with ELIM and am on this same journey after a time of enforced rest last year with a broken leg. Your blog has given a language to my journey. I am still discovering my purpose as I learn and want to serve in my giftings well, but I have become aware of the blessing of being present, of pursuing Him in all things, of thanksgiving as a lifestyle and being in the moment. Your tips for this are really helpful.

    Blessings to you, Victoria

  4. Really good Duncan and very insightful. I have learned late in life that it is not “my ministry” but “HIS ministry. Because we would have nothing without Him.

  5. For us life has taken a massive change but before Simon went to be with the Lord he told us we would have to learn to “do life to a different rhythm “
    We are thankful for his life and the wisdom he imparted before he left.
    So now we look to God’s guidance for our new start with what we have got

  6. Love this I heard you at conference a couple of years ago speaking about your journey. Thank you for this article it is very helpful in pursuing this one thing.

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